tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post1585816080006197778..comments2024-01-05T21:32:49.346-08:00Comments on Living with PMDD: PMDD and DenialLiana at livingwithpmdd.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04527230725501073923noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-25483767205973234522018-06-29T20:09:01.889-07:002018-06-29T20:09:01.889-07:00Perfectly said, straight outta my head!Perfectly said, straight outta my head!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11244606493064601974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-39889535663783794072018-05-08T12:05:42.179-07:002018-05-08T12:05:42.179-07:00Thanks "Husband of queen of denial" for ...Thanks "Husband of queen of denial" for sharing your thoughts. It's awesome to see the perspective of the other people in the household. I know it can be hard. My husband has seen the worst of me and I worry if at some point it will be too much. Of course I feel that I'm not all that bad, but I am biased. Perhaps I do at least need to try the antidepressants that the doctor perscribed. I was afraid of the side effects, but at least if I try and they don't work then I can move on to the next option. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-27271932983678459142015-06-02T17:56:00.820-07:002015-06-02T17:56:00.820-07:00Respectfully disagree this has much to do with hus...Respectfully disagree this has much to do with husbands support or lack of it. I happen to be married to a woman who has this condition and has spent the better part of 15 years blaming me for it. I think people need to be responsible for their own wellness, their own actions, and most especially, to be 100% accountable for the horrible treatment they give others. No excuses, no blame, no shared responsibility. I have been very supportive of my wife throughout our marriage, have suffered horrible abuse from her, and no doubt I'll get flamed for even making this comment, but I am so tired of hearing on every PMDD blog that men basically just need to "man up" regarding their wives' atrocious behavior during episodes. It is probably harder for me to live with my wife's disorder than it is for her -- simply because I am the continuous target for her irrational, completely over the top rages, violence, destructive comments and behavior, and constant denial of her symptoms before, during and after the monthly episodes. I support the blog by the way, I'm not a hater, not a misogynist, and I am just trying to help my wife. But I just don't agree this is a problem that is the responsibility of anyone else to take care of but the person who has PMDD, especially since I have done nothing to deserve the horrible treatment I have received.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-87586107879815856002015-05-11T07:42:20.954-07:002015-05-11T07:42:20.954-07:00Actually, it's coming as a book now. Hopefull...Actually, it's coming as a book now. Hopefully in 2016.<br />Liana at livingwithpmdd.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04527230725501073923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-25084014054597722532014-12-18T23:41:32.735-08:002014-12-18T23:41:32.735-08:00Husband of queen of denial here.
In general it tak...Husband of queen of denial here.<br />In general it takes time for the anti depressants to kick in.<br />And there are side effects.<br />But they did work for my wife. I can attest to it as I am the target of her monthly outburst.<br />Unfortunately, queen of denial has stopped taking the meds and my life has gone down the drains again. <br />No one enjoys taking anti depressants. But sometimes there is no alternative.<br />Not taking meds or ridiculing them by questioning the logic behind giving antidepressants for PMS symptoms. Saying they are one size for all pants is just another form of denial.<br />By not taking meds when they can help you. Or taking treatment dvecisions without input from targets of your abuse - husband and kids - is really unfair to them.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-27747569187459233202014-04-09T05:59:37.803-07:002014-04-09T05:59:37.803-07:00Still working on that post. I got distracted last...Still working on that post. I got distracted last year by several surgeries and recovery. But the post is coming, without a doubt, especially since anti-depressants have recently been proven to not be nearly as effective as we have been told. <br />Liana at livingwithpmdd.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04527230725501073923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-50540507937174235832012-06-10T10:39:49.174-07:002012-06-10T10:39:49.174-07:00Just reading this one post has made me choke up an...Just reading this one post has made me choke up and laugh at the same time, because just yesterday I was getting mad at everything when in reality none of it was deserving of such intense emotion. Thank you. I am going to go through this blog from beginning to end. I wish no one had to go through this, but for the love of God I am so happy to know I'm not alone in this. Antidepressants helped for half the month but nothing can kick this craziness that I feel.Lenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02084940982705302533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-55210143780252614472012-06-05T10:27:33.348-07:002012-06-05T10:27:33.348-07:00The best things I can suggest are watching your di...The best things I can suggest are watching your diet (as described in other posts here) taking daily nutritional supplements, and if at all possible, participating in low-key activities on those days. If your husband doesn't support your efforts to "be well" (for the good of *all* the family), that makes things doubly hard. You should't have to fight your spouse when you're fighting for your sanity.Liana at livingwithpmdd.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04527230725501073923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-1407905827000393012012-06-02T15:02:46.010-07:002012-06-02T15:02:46.010-07:00Does anyone know what one can do when you one does...Does anyone know what one can do when you one doesn't have the time for total self-care? In the past I've managed my life quite carefully, but I'm now the stay-at-home mother of 2 little "highly spirited" boys (2 and 5 years old). I just can't take care of myself enough right now as they are the priority. But I'm letting them down by letting my PMDD get out of hand. My husband does not understand why I need more time and space for self-care at this stage while the kids are young. I think we are heading for divorce unless I show vast improvement on medication (which I've avoided for the past 6 yrs due to pregnancy and breastfeeding). Any advice is greatly appreciated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-27655066204829748652012-05-05T06:56:26.686-07:002012-05-05T06:56:26.686-07:00You're very welcome. I plan to do a blog post...You're very welcome. I plan to do a blog post on SSRIs and how effective they are at treating PMDD within the next few months. I am researching the information right now, as many people have said the same--that the SSRIs didn't work for them. Know that that's not a failure on your part. You can't expect to treat delicate hormonal systems that are as individualized as the women themselves with a one-size-fits-all drug. At best, SSRIs only work for up to 60% of women with PMDD. If you're not one of those women, don't make the mistake of taking the blame onto yourself. Take care and God Bless.Liana at livingwithpmdd.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04527230725501073923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-9176407977806371712012-05-04T10:41:15.490-07:002012-05-04T10:41:15.490-07:00Hi There, Im a 28 year old mother who has been des...Hi There, Im a 28 year old mother who has been desperate to find answers to how I have been feeling, for the past 4 years I have been on SSRI's and its been worse for me. I kept teeling my doctor that I didn't think I was depressed and that it was possibly my hormones. He dismissed my statement and him and I have never seen eye to eye since, then a miracle happened, I got pregnant with my Daughter who is now 2. All my cray behaviour stopped, I had never felt more "normal" in my life! Of course once I gave birth and recovered it didnt take long for all of it to come back and I have been chomping at the bit (so to speak) to find out what this is and if other women encounter this what I call "Dark passenger" Here I am. After about an hour of reading and going to livingwithpmdd.com I sat here with my head in my hands and I cried, and I cried and I cried... All I can say is Thank you, you have in more ways than one made me feel "normal", understood and not alone. It was no coinsidence that I came upon this and I will forever be thanking you for starting me on my journey to better understanding ME! xoxxo Thank YOU.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-53803769635118844312012-03-23T16:07:08.131-07:002012-03-23T16:07:08.131-07:00Thanks for this blog, I just realize what I have a...Thanks for this blog, I just realize what I have and you helped me a lot.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-13443094129870779832012-02-26T18:54:48.849-08:002012-02-26T18:54:48.849-08:00OMG! After hours researching, I found something t...OMG! After hours researching, I found something that makes sense. It's like I could have written it myself. It's so comforting to know that I'm not the only one out there and there is an actual name for it besides "she's going off the deep end again!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-63459120508439454352012-02-20T22:44:51.541-08:002012-02-20T22:44:51.541-08:00I also resisted the traditional medication route f...I also resisted the traditional medication route for 2 decades until I couldn't take it anymore. My life is still difficult and managed around the PMDD, but at least I have some good time now instead of all being taken by enduring or recovering from the episodes.VickyCAnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-52693278852517104322012-01-11T18:41:30.873-08:002012-01-11T18:41:30.873-08:00Wow, just after reading all of these stories I hav...Wow, just after reading all of these stories I have realized and am now going to accept that I have PMDD. I did not realize that my handwriting was being affected...wow. I always thought that I was just jittery..thank you for all of your insight.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-54354663666495637502011-12-21T13:34:02.195-08:002011-12-21T13:34:02.195-08:00Wow - just found this blog tonight as I was readin...Wow - just found this blog tonight as I was reading on PMDD. I'm 43 and have had these symptoms all my adult life, and they keep getting worse and worse. I'm better when I exercise and eat well, but now I'm to the point where I can't keep my workouts up for more than two weeks...I've been beating myself up for being lazy, stupid and just plain crazy --- even though a psychiatrist I saw a year ago diagnosed me with PMDD and suggested medication for half of each month. I've always been against meds...but tonight I made an appointment with the doc as I realized I can't fight this fight alone any longer -- and I'd be insane (pun intended) to do so. <br />Thanks for this blog, I'll be reading it up in the next few days while off work for Christmas. Happy Holidays !Zellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04331254180053293507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7780625537812809359.post-21735463732826035272011-12-11T02:16:19.645-08:002011-12-11T02:16:19.645-08:00I need help. I just recently realized there was ev...I need help. I just recently realized there was even a name for severe PMS! Looking forward to reading more on your blog and learning. Thank you so much! <br />Here is a quick glimpse at my life:<br /><br />My Double Life<br /><br />Who am I really?<br />Half the time I’m in a panic,<br />The other half I’m manic<br />I’m just a simple wife,<br />Trying to co-ordinate my life,<br />Plans and commitments I no longer make,<br />For fear of who I’ll be when I wake.<br /><br />Am I an addict?<br />Desperately trying to unwind,<br />From my out-of-control mind.<br />To pretend I am there,<br />And that I actually care.<br />To take me out of my isolation,<br />Or just for sedation.<br /><br />Am I really that happy?<br />I feel so attached.<br />How long will it last?<br />Before the next crash.<br />Then she’s gone in a flash.<br />But wait, I’m not yet done!<br />I haven’t caught up from the last one.<br /><br />Who am I really?<br />I am kind, loving and caring.<br />I am sad, depressed, and at times daring.<br />Confused about my identity,<br />I just want to be me, but who is she?<br />She’s a woman wanting to flee.<br />She’s a woman that lives with PMDD.<br />Posted on 12/07/11, 01:18 pmAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com