Holiday Relationship Survival Guide

Still working on that post on progesterone...there's so much information, pro and con, to sift through.  I seem to uncover new information daily and it's all conflicting...

In the meantime, going in to the holiday season, I thought we might revisit a few posts on relationships to remind ourselves of what's important, what's not, and what we can do about it.

Here are the links to my series of posts about all sorts of relationships, because between now and when life settles down again in January, we'll most likely be dealing with more people than we do the rest of the year combined. So bookmark this page, and refer to it as needed :)

Relationships Begin With You

Learning to Treat Yourself Like a Friend

HOW to be a Friend to Yourself

Choosing Your Friends Wisely

Choosing Your Family

How to Survive Family Gatherings

It's Not Personal, It's Just Your PMDD

Finding the Right Partner

Dealing with PMDD - Advice for Men

and, as a reminder,

They Only See Our Failures

Take care, God Bless, and may your holidays be happy.

Is it PMDD or Pre Menstrual Exacerbation?

I was wrong.  In my last post, I thought I was experiencing an episode of PMDD.  I felt like I had an iron band around my head and it pounded all day long.  It had been going on for four days with no relief.  Turned out, though, it was my allergies acting up. 

About 15 years ago, I started having sinus and breathing problems during the changing of the seasons.  For a few years I had a prescription I would dutifully take for 30 days each spring and fall.  Gradually, I switched to homeopathic remedies.  Then, as I specifically began to concentrate on my diet and nutritional needs, the need for even that went away.  But the allergy medication (bought on sale, as it was by now available over the counter) remained in the medicine cabinet, unused except for when nothing else would work.

So the other day, with my head pounding as it had been for days, I opened the medicine cabinet for something else, and all of a sudden the allergy medication was front and center in my vision.  It's always been in the same spot, I just haven't paid attention to it in a while.

But that day it practically jumped out at me.  Since I practice awareness, I thought, hmmm....you know, it *is* allergy season...maybe that's my problem. 

I took one and my headache cleared right up.  I took one for the next five days, until I ran out, and haven't had a problem again until...this month.

Imagine that.  Is it a coincidence or what?

It's *or what*. What's happening is called pre-menstrual exacerbation (PME) of an underlying condition.  That's when your body might be able to handle (insert condition here) during the rest of the month --  but during the week prior to your menses, it can't, and you have breakthrough symptoms of whatever your underlying condition is. 

When this happens, many of us seek treatment for the underlying condition, not realizing its connection to our menstrual cycle.  When the symptoms ease off, we feel the medication we are now (quite often unnecessarily) taking daily has solved the problem—until the next time around.  At this bewildering and frustrating point, dosages are increased, medications are changed, or we simply give up looking for help and try to cope on our own because our doctors don’t know what else to do for us.

So here's a primer on (just some!) Conditions That Can Be Exacerbated During Episodes of PMDD:

Acne                      

Allergies

Arthritis

Asthma

Bipolar Disorder

Blood Sugar Problems

Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Depression

Dysthmic Disorder

Eating Disorders

Endometriosis

Fibromyalgia

Headaches

Hypoglycemia

Insulin Resistance

Irritable Bowel Syndrome

Joint Pain

Lupus

Migraines

Panic Disorder

Peri-menopause

Personality Disorders

Seizure Disorders

Somatoform Disorders

Thyroid Disorders

A Special Word About Bipolar Disorder

            The depression in PMDD is similar to that experienced in Bipolar Disorder, but PMDD does not include the manic phases of Bipolar Disorder.  Many, many, women have been misdiagnosed as bipolar, and have been put on a wide array of bipolar medications, one after the other, to no effect, when the real culprit was PMDD.

            Manic Episodes

            This can not be stated enough.  There are no manic episodes with PMDD.  That’s one thing that distinguishes it from Bipolar Disorder.  With PMDD you have time periods when you feel good, and time periods when you feel miserable, overwhelmed, out of control, snappish, sluggish, and/or depressed.  With PMDD, you may spend a lot of time in what may look or *feel* like a manic frenzy, trying to catch up on all the things you weren’t able to do during a PMDD episode, but this is more a function of your personality than genuine mania.  Genuine mania can include any of the following:

Euphoria

Extreme optimism

Inflated self-esteem

Poor judgment

Rapid speech

Racing thoughts

Aggressive behavior

Agitation

Increased physical activity

Risky behavior

Spending sprees

Increased drive to perform or achieve goals

Increased sexual drive

Decreased need for sleep

Tendency to be easily distracted

Inability to concentrate

Drug abuse

An Additional Word About Major Depressive Disorder

            The only difference between PMDD and clinical depression is that the PMDD woman’s episode of depression will end with the onset of her period.  This, and the fact that a PMDD episode can last up to two weeks, the essential feature of a Major Depressive Episode, is why so many women with PMDD are misdiagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder.  Also, depression is most prevalent in women, period, which further confuses the issue.

How MDD predisposes women toward PMDD and vice versa

            Just as the physiological origin of Major Depressive Disorder resides in an imbalance in the neurotransmitters in a woman’s brain, our reproductive hormones (estrogen, progesterone, testosterone) influence those same neurotransmitters, including dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrene.  This can therefore increase the risk of depression in women during any time of life related to reproductive hormonal fluctuations, such as the menstrual cycle, (PMS and PMDD), the peri- and post-partum period, peri-menopause, and menopause.  Also, women who suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) are more likely to suffer from PMDD and vice versa.  There may be a genetic link between SAD, PMDD, and PMS.

PMDD and Dysthmic Disorder

            It is not clear that Dysthmic Disorder (previously known as Dysthmia) is really separate from Major Depressive Disorder. It may only differ in terms of severity and the course of the illness.  Therefore, Dysthmic Disorder, too, can be confused with PMDD.  But only if you ignore the fact that Dysthmic Disorder can only be diagnosed when you have had depressive symptoms for two straight years without a break.  Unfortunately, many doctors do.

Peri-menopause and Menopause  --  Confusion City

            When a woman enters peri-menopause, her reproductive hormones begin to fluctuate wildly from month to month as their levels start to decline as part of her natural aging process.  Still, to a woman experiencing these wild fluctuations, it’s as if the body doesn’t know which way to go, and a fierce battle to maintain the status quo is being waged inside her hormonally, while at the same time she's trying to hold on to (what's left of) her shape and mental abilities.  If she’s been able to manage her PMDD episodes up to this point, the added instability in her hormones can bring on a double whammy of symptoms, leading to increased episodes of :

Depression

Tension, Anxiety

Lability

Irritability, Anger

Foggy Thinking

Lethargy, Fatigue

Overeating and Food Cravings

Hypersomnia or Insomnia

Physical Aches and Pains

Bloating and Weight Gain

            Considering that during peri-menopause a woman is still having some periods, the sheer unpredictability of when her period will come—or won’t—combined with the increased hormonal activity in her body, and the effects of these wildly fluctuating hormones on her brain, can lead her to think she’s truly going insane. 

 

The Bottom Line  --  PMDD Makes Everything Worse

            The bottom line is if you have PMDD, whatever you're feeling will get worse pre-menstrually, including any underlying depressive or anxiety disorders, and/or the naturally occurring fluctuations in your perimenopausal hormones.  Even reactions to food and drink and drugs will intensify during an episode of PMDD.  This includes cravings and allergic reactions.

So the next time you feel an upsurge of symptoms, no matter what they are, take the time to stop and ask yourself...is it PMDD or PME?

The answer can make all the difference in which path you take to treatment.