The Voices of PMDD, A Partner's Perspective on Seeking Treatment

I have to start with thanking everyone for reading my last post. It was great to know that my post hit a chord with so many.

Liana asked me an interesting question – does my partner know she suffers from PMDD?

The simple answer is yes, but I think she subconsciously would prefer to forget that PMDD-driven events happen. One of my greatest struggles has been the lack of empathy received during and after PMDD episodes – just part of the PMDD zone, I guess.

How black have I been?

I wrote the following during one of our PMDD episodes:

Do I care anymore?

I don’t like being hurt, but it is also pointless being in a relationship where I don’t get what I need. This can only lead to frustration. I am being made to feel worthless every month. As I’ve been warned, that comes with a substantial mental health cost. There is only so much you can put up with, and I think I am there now.

So, plan from here? I’m an exhausted man. I’ll just avoid her, and give myself space to think about if I can handle things any more. There is no point trying to directly reconcile, as she will just want to fight.

One of the pieces of feedback I received from my prior post was asking what we had done to try and treat the PMDD. I couldn’t fit everything into my prior post, so I thought I’d cover it here.

My partner has found it challenging to seek clinical help – to do so requires her to speak to outsiders regarding the details of her moods etc., that she knows are challenging (you are making me shove pills down my throat/they are making me fat/you are making me tell strangers about how crazy I am).
I completely understand...and yet, I definitely end up with a sense of hopelessness - if she had diabetes, there would be no doubt she'd be accepting of medical help. 
However, with my support and encouragement, we have certainly explored this space.

We first went down the SSRI route. I’ve no doubt this helped, but the side effects became frustrating for both of us.

We sought specialist assistance after that and some hormone type medications were prescribed, one of which was Cyproterone, but it was really a disaster. We only lasted a couple of months – the side effects were horrific. The most accurate description would be that she was in the PMDD zone for two solid months. It is almost impossible to describe how awful you end up feeling as a partner when she is constantly angry and you can't do anything right.  You end up suffering from sleep deprivation from wondering just what has gone so horribly wrong in your relationship. What makes it even worse is she has no ability to understand the impact her behavior is having on you - there is absolutely no empathy. 

I ended up as a burnt out mess.

Where are we today? We are retrying vitamin type supplements, as well as making diet changes. Caffeine seems to be a bit of a problem – one of the many tips we’ve picked up from the Rushing Woman’s Syndrome eBook, which describes the “biochemical and emotional effects of constantly being in a rush, and the health consequences that urgency elicits.ˮ

So things are quite calm at the moment – and my own blackness has gone. Until the next time.

One Woman's Dreams Sidelined by her Birth Control -- How About You?

One U.S. skater you didn’t see in the Olympics this year was Megan Henry: Her 2012 training was disrupted by pulmonary embolisms in both lungs, caused by her birth control device.  She had to see five different doctors before one of them made the connection between multiple blood clots in both lungs and her choice of birth control. She's now participating with 3800 people in a multi-district lawsuit against the manufacturer of the device, who has announced it is willing to pay $100 million to resolve the lawsuit, but 95 percent of those who filed must accept a deal first.

Ladies, please think about what you are putting inside your body. Is it really worth your life?

Is the Pill Really the Answer for Your PMDD?

Whether you're taking the Pill for contraception, or for your PMDD, you need to read this book.  If you can't afford the book, then read Holly's blog of the same name.  Make sure you are making an informed choice when you pop that pill in the morning for your PMDD.  

To quote author Laura Werschler, who wrote the foreword for Holly Grigg-Spall's book:

"Sweetening the Pill explores and challenges the ways in which the pill and other drug-based contraceptives damage women’s health, threaten our autonomy and thwart body literacy. What we don’t know about our bodies helps pharmaceutical companies “sell” their contraceptive drugs, and keeps us “addicted” to them... Prescribing the pill, or other forms of hormonal contraception, has become, in the minds of most health-care providers, the “standard of care” for being a girl. It is all too common to subjugate a girl’s menstrual cycle to synthetic hormones that superficially “regulate,” but actually suspend the maturation of her reproductive system. And for many girls, the use of hormonal contraception continues well into their 20s, without awareness of what might be or has been sacrificed."

This sacrifice can include, but is not limited to, your mental and emotional stability, both of which are defining symptoms of your PMDD.

For more information, go here, or here.  Or even here.  Learn about what you are putting into your body.  You will be surprised at how many questions these resources will be able to answer.

Birth Control and PMDD

Here's a link to another excellent article by Holly Grigg-Spall, about how your oral contraceptive may be affecting your relationships.  Just remember that in taking birth control for your PMDD, you are messing with your hormones, and your hormones are already messed up, so...

You do the math.

Oral contraceptives only mask the problem.  They do not cure it, or make it go away.  In the end, more often than not, they make the problem worse.  Because eventually you will go off of the Pill, and if it doesn't happen sooner, that's most likely when your hormonal issues will resurface and with a vengeance.

Here's a quote from Holly's article:  Professor Jayashri Kulkarni, the director of Monash Alfred Psychiatry Research Centre in Melbourne, Australia, found women on the pill are twice as likely to be depressed, anxious, have poor self-esteem, feel irritable, hostile, and numb to experiences.

Sound like anyone you know?

“We’ve seen the destruction of relationships, due to women becoming irritable, hostile and prickly when taking the pill. And then they look back and say ‘that wasn’t me’. There can be the breakdown of marriages,” Prof. Kulkarni describes.

You don't deal with a problem by covering it up.  If you are having any of these mood or emotional issues and are on the Pill, don't be so quick to blame yourself alone for feeling any of the above.  Your moods could be getting a boost--and not in the right direction--from your birth control pills.

Taking Yaz or Yasmin for Your PMDD?

How many women know Yaz Flex, Yaz, Yasmin and Beyaz are 99% similar in composition? ~Holly Grigg-Spall, author of the Sweetening the Pill blog and book.

If you are taking Yaz or Yasmin for your PMDD symptoms, you need to read this.  So many of you have written to tell me you are being told the PMDD symptoms you experience are "all in your head."  Well, if you are experiencing any of these reported mental, physical, or emotional side effects for Yaz or Yasmin, don't let anyone tell you they are "all in your head." 

If you choose to take these drugs, then do so knowing the risks.  Don't be taken by surprise.

Another quote from Holly: Monash University in Australia is one of the few facilities to have undertaken research into the correlation between birth control pills and depression. Professor Jayashri Kulkarni found that women on the pill were twice as likely to experience depression, anxiety, and mental numbness.

Sound familiar?  If so, you have a choice to make. 

But at least it's an informed choice. 

Progestins, Bio-Identical Progestins, and Progesterone

Research on the post about progesterone and progestins is nearly complete and the information will be divided into at least four parts: progestins, more about progestins, (including LARCs, or Long Acting Reversible Contraceptives), bio-identical progestins, and progesterone itself. I don't know when they will be done, as some medical issues have cropped up that limit my time at the computer.
When they are complete, however, I will come back and link to them in this post.

In the meantime, I hope you will find other useful information here, and wish you peace, prosperity, and as many PMDD-free days as possible.

Continuing the Conversation about Depo-Provera

In keeping with my latest posts on progesterone, progestins, and birth control, I 'm posting this link to a post about Depo-Provera.  I know many of you have had negative experiences with the shots and this may help others to think twice about getting them for your PMDD.  There's a lot of good information on this site overall regarding all things menstrual, so it's well worth your time to look around once you get there. 

Enjoy, and may you be having a PMDD-free day.

Are Oral Contraceptives Really the Answer for PMDD?

Is Levora® making your PMDD worse?  We're going to take a little side trip today, because in the past month alone I've had over 100 requests for information on this subject.  According to information provided by the website Drugs.com, it's possible.

Levora® is a combination drug that contains female hormones that prevent ovulation and also causes changes in your cervical mucus and uterine lining, making it harder for sperm to reach the uterus and harder for a fertilized egg to attach to the uterus. It's primarily used as an oral contraceptive that provides 21 active white tablets and 7 inactive peach tablets.  The tablets contain levonogestrel (a totally synthetic progestogen) and ethinyl estradiol (a synthetic estrogen).  Inactive ingredients in the pills include FD&C Yellow No.6 (which may contain aluminum) and three forms of lactose.

For more specific information on patient-reported Levora side effects, go to: the Rate a Drug site

and/or Treato: The Voice of the Patient.

It should also be noted that continuous combined birth control formulas (such as the one found in Levora®), as opposed to sequentially-based hormone regimens that mimic the natural female cycle, have also been shown to frequently lower a woman's sex drive.

According to Dr. Winnifred B. Cutler, in her book, Hormones and Your Health, a test on monkeys showed that the combination of ethinyl estradiol and levonogestrel (the combination in Levora®) caused large elevations in the stress hormone cortisol, as well as great increases in their heart rates.  Rising rates of cortisol, among other things, messes with your metabolism, causes you to gain weight and suppresses your normal immune functions, leaving you susceptible to every cold and flu that comes your way.  In time your body can get so run down that you develop something serious, even terminal.

For instance, Dr. Cutler also recommends that women avoid ethinyl estradiol after age 45 because it also increases the risk of having a stroke.  In fact, she recommends that (no matter what your age) you have your triglycerides and CRP (C-reactive proteins) checked (via blood tests) if you start ANY oral estrogens at three and/or six months after you start taking them.  You will need to switch hormone regimens if your CRP or triglycerides rise, as rising levels of either of these is predictive of heart disease, even more so than rising levels of LDL (aka the bad) cholesterol. 

No matter what form of oral contraceptive you may be taking, I urge you to find out what exactly is in it, and if it is a continuous formula or a sequential one.  This will go a long way in determining which side effects may or may not apply to you.  Besides, it's just plain smart to know what you're putting into your body.  For instance, if you're having trouble thinking and remembering things, it might be due to the ethinyl estradiol in your hormone pills.  "Estrogen like" as in synthetic estrogens, is not the same as bioidentical estrogen.  Far from it.  Each will have a different impact on your thinking processes.

The rest of the information that follows seems to be the standard patient information for all oral contraceptives, which include Levora®, but may or may not be specific to Levora®.  Still, I looked up the medical terminology you find in your patient information packets, and translated them into everyday words we can understand.

That said, you should not take any combination birth control pills if you have high blood pressure, heart disease, a blood-clotting disorder, circulation problems, diabetes, pre-diabetes, unusual vaginal bleeding, liver disease or liver cancer, jaundice caused by birth control pills, a heart attack, stroke, or blood clot.  Note that there is the possibility of a risk of heart disease even in very young women who take oral contraceptives.  So if you are young, don't go around thinking you're invincible. While a cause and effect relationship has not been scientifically established, some studies have also reported an increased relative risk of developing breast cancer, particularly at a younger age.  This increased risk appears to be related to how long you take the pills.  The risk for benign liver tumors increases after four or more years of use.  (Death can occur if a tumor ruptures.)  Studies have also shown an increased risk of developing liver cancer in long term (greater than 8 years) use of oral contraceptives.

You should discontinue use of your oral contraceptive if you experience unexplained or complete loss of vision, bulging eyes, swelling of the optic nerve, or lesions (scars, bumps, bubbles) in your retinal veins.

Also, be aware that cigarette smoking increases the risk of serious cardiovascular side effects from oral contraceptive use.  This risk increases with age and with heavy smoking (15 or more cigarettes per day). 

Still, if you use oral contraceptives, you should not smoke.  Period.  If you are looking for a way to go off the pill, please check out this website. 

If you do smoke while taking oral contraceptives, some nasty things that can happen include heart attack, blood clots (in the lungs and legs), stroke, liver tumors, and gallbladder disease.  The risk increases significantly if you already have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, and/or are obese.  Obesity is defined as having a body mass index of more than 30.  You can figure out your BMI here.  

Oral contraceptives have also been shown to cause glucose intolerance in a significant percentage of users.  Oral contraceptives containing greater than 75 mcg of estrogen (which Levora® does) can cause abnormally high levels of insulin. People with too much insulin have frequent episodes of low blood sugar (hypoglycemia). These episodes can be characterized by a lack of energy (lethargy) and/or irritability. Repeated episodes of low blood sugar increase the risk for serious complications such as seizures, intellectual disability, breathing difficulties, and coma.

Lower doses of estrogen cause less glucose intolerance, but the progestogens in your oral contraceptive can also increase insulin secretion and create insulin resistance.  Therefore pre-diabetic and diabetic women should be especially careful while taking oral contraception.  Talk with your doctor frequently. 

The incidence of high blood pressure also increases with increasing concentrations of progestogens.  Women with a history of high blood pressure or high blood pressure-related diseases, as well as kidney disease, should use another method of contraception.

If you start to get migraines, or your migraines become more severe, stop taking oral contraception until you determine the cause.

When taking any oral contraceptive, you should follow up regularly with your doctor.  You need to pay special attention to your blood pressure, breasts, abdomen and pelvic organs, including pap smears.   Women--especially younger women--with a strong family history of breast cancer should think twice about taking oral contraceptives.

Birth control pills can also be a problem if you have varicose veins, a history of depression, an underactive thyroid, seizures or epilepsy, and/or a history of fibrocystic breast disease, lumps, nodules, or an abnormal mammogram.

As with any drug, you could have an allergic reaction to Levora®.

If any of these adverse effects occurs while you are taking oral contraceptives, call your doctor immediately:

·        Sharp chest pain, coughing of blood or sudden shortness of breath (indicating a possible clot in the lung)

·        Pain in the calf (indicating a possible clot in the leg)

·        Crushing chest pain or heaviness in the chest (indicating a possible heart attack)

·        Sudden severe headache or vomiting, dizziness or fainting, disturbances of vision or speech, weakness or numbness in an arm or leg (indicating a possible stroke)

·        Sudden partial or complete loss of vision (indicating a possible clot in the eye)

·        Breast lumps (indicating possible breast cancer or fibrocystic disease of the breast: ask your doctor or health care provider to show you how to examine your breasts)

·        Severe pain or tenderness in the stomach area (indicating a possible ruptured liver tumor)

·        Difficulty in sleeping, weakness, lack of energy, fatigue or change in mood (possibly indicating severe depression)

       Jaundice or a yellowing of the skin or eyeballs, accompanied frequently by fever, fatigue, loss of appetite, dark-colored urine or light-colored bowel movements (indicating possible liver problems)

It's the references to depression and anxiety that concern and confuse me.  Why would a doctor prescribe something for your PMDD when it could cause more of the very same symptoms you already have?  Plus increase your chances of developing heart disease, among other things.

Side effects they don't consider serious (but you might) include:

Increased blood pressure

Mild nausea

Breast tenderness or swelling, nipple discharge

Freckles or darkening of facial skin, increased bodily hair growth, loss of scalp hair

Rashes

Changes in weight or appetite

Fluid retention, particularly in the fingers and ankles

Problems with contact lenses

Headache

Anxiety

Dizziness

Vaginal itching or discharge

and

Decreased sex drive

And this is not a complete list of side effects.

Special note:  Certain drugs can make birth control pills less effective:  These include Phenobarbital and other barbituates, seizure medications, and St. John's Wort, which many PMDD women use to counter their depression.  So beware if you are self-medicating with St. John's Wort.

In all, there doesn't seem to be a lot of scientific information on the internet specifically about Levora® making your PMDD symptoms worse...which is probably why people are looking for it.  I hope this post has answered some of your questions, or at least pointed you in the right direction for the answers you seek. 

That done, I need to get on my personal bandwagon and ask you to reconsider using birth control to treat your PMDD.  Is the increased risk of heart disease, the number one killer of women, worth the risk of masking your PMDD symptoms for a few years?  Think about this.  Just because fertility and PMDD both involve hormones does not mean the medications for them are interchangeable.  That's like throwing something against a wall to see if it sticks.  A good naturopath or nurse practitioner should be able to help you come up with a hormone regimen individualized for your needs and your body. 

The problem with PMDD begins at ovulation.  Did you know bioidentical estrogen in high enough doses can prevent ovulation?  Without all the unpleasant side effects listed above.

I'm not recommending bioidentical estrogen as birth control, but to help manage your PMDD in a positive and healthy way?  It's certainly worth a shot.  Especially if you're in peri-menopause.

Of course you can't take unopposed estrogen in any form without adding back some progesterone, but again, with the right medical supervision, you can work out a regimen that best suits your body and needs and lifestyle.  That best suits YOU.  Rather than the one-size-fits-all mentality that prevails in the marketplace now.   

Don't you deserve to be treated as the individual that you are?