Empathy was the reigning emotion of the weekend, because we understood each other—all too well. Not just our emotions, but the process and pitfalls, jargon and results of the disorder. I'm in Day 5. Day 15 here. I've been on six different drugs in ten years. I'm on progesterone therapy. I'm getting a divorce. I'm thinking of getting a hysterectomy. I hate my family. I'm taking (name your medication). I've been diagnosed as bipolar. I think about suicide every month. My doctor told me to "Just go shopping."
Sunday, August 23, 2015
Welcome to the NAPMDD Conference, Where The Real You Is Welcome
Two weeks ago today in Colorado, the first ever National
Organization for PMDD (NAPMDD) Conference and Expo ended amid hugs, kisses,
smiles, laughter, and tears...many, many tears.
Tears of hope, tears of joy, tears of relief, renewal, exhaustion, and—for
the first time in what I would venture to say almost every attendees' life—tears
of pure recognition and acceptance.
For Acceptance—in addition to Hope—was the overall theme,
message, and atmosphere of our time together in Denver.
While leading up to the conference many jokes were made
in the PMDD community about what could happen in a room full of angry women
with PMDD, the opposite was our reality.
There was no need to be angry because we had all "been
there."
Empathy was the reigning emotion of the weekend, because we understood each other—all too well. Not just our emotions, but the process and pitfalls, jargon and results of the disorder. I'm in Day 5. Day 15 here. I've been on six different drugs in ten years. I'm on progesterone therapy. I'm getting a divorce. I'm thinking of getting a hysterectomy. I hate my family. I'm taking (name your medication). I've been diagnosed as bipolar. I think about suicide every month. My doctor told me to "Just go shopping."
Empathy was the reigning emotion of the weekend, because we understood each other—all too well. Not just our emotions, but the process and pitfalls, jargon and results of the disorder. I'm in Day 5. Day 15 here. I've been on six different drugs in ten years. I'm on progesterone therapy. I'm getting a divorce. I'm thinking of getting a hysterectomy. I hate my family. I'm taking (name your medication). I've been diagnosed as bipolar. I think about suicide every month. My doctor told me to "Just go shopping."
And where else could you go and tell a group of strangers
about the color and condition of your cervix? Better yet, splash pictures of it onscreen,
then ask if anybody has questions?
I loved the openness of the conference. Information was shared with total
professionalism and respect, but also with a dash of humor when warranted. The program provided by the speakers was
invaluable. The sessions sparked
conversations about subjects such as nutrition, detoxification, inflammation,
self-care, self-love, wellness, and healing.
Learning to live your cycle rather than fight it; learning to work with
it rather than against it.
So many options; so many choices. But all with the same goal of wellness. For that alone the conference was huge success. (I'm just writing about it now, because I
took a two week vacation to travel out West afterward.) Kudos all around go out to Amanda and Melanie
and Elizabeth and their well-organized team of volunteers.
But what struck me most about the event—in addition to
the great food, hotel, conversation, and stellar line up of speakers—was how much
love and acceptance everyone shared.
Yes, people cried throughout the weekend, in the
audience, in corners, in hallways, on couches, and at the podium—but that was okay.
For the first time in history, women with PMDD (and their partners) were
allowed the safe space to "be ourselves" in public. Nobody had to go back to their room and
suffer alone. Nobody had to hide in the
bathroom to cry. Nobody had to excuse
themselves because they made other people uncomfortable with their messy emotions. Our tears and fears were welcome. Our conversations were real. Our hopes, dreams, sadness, and anxieties were
out there for everyone to see.
And it was wonderful.
Freeing. Empowering.
I'm sure the energy of welcoming acceptance that flowed
throughout the conference will help to sustain attendees for many months to
come.
And that is what NAPMDD is all about.
Support.
Encouragement. Acceptance.
Hope.
In sum, all I can say is while the educational
information received at the conference was by far the bargain of the year, the warmth,
friendship, and empathy I experienced at the NAPMDD conference was...
Priceless.
*For those who were unable to attend the
conference, please check the NAPMDD site for links to free videos of the speaker sessions.
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I couldn't have said it better myself! You perfectly captured the beautiful, unique atmosphere of the event. It was such a pleasure speaking with you and your husband, Liana. I'm already looking forward to next year!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, Janna! We look forward to seeing you at the next conference as well!
DeleteI am happy that so many found comfort in this conference. I would love to find a place to garner extra support. My PMDD symptoms have grown so much in the past few months, with each feeling worse than the last. Feelings of resentment to my toddler daughter (which kills me to no end and I cannot even believe that I would ever in my life be writing these words) and to my husband. It is the worst experience ever and one that no one truly understands.
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